I’m grappling with the impediment that some people have a really hard time with being real and simply answer a question. Not sure why it’s so hard to give someone an answer, when someone is asking a question. It seems much easier to just ignore one’s intrigue or just completely ghost them. You can get in line at Starbucks and concocked a special drink without thinking, or pop on line and deliver a stranger your beliefs about your truth and values when no one asked, and yet when it comes to standing in line, face-to-face, at the counter-of-life, it is almost impossible for some people to just tell you exactly what you want to hear…when you ask them for the truth. Or even more to my point, what you DON’T WANT to hear. It is breathtaking to meet someone who is authentically honest about their hopes, dreams and desires. Are they in your DM to play with you; to titillate you? Or do they want to talk? I’m up for and little game of cat and mouse every once in a while, if I know you are not trying to con me into it. I AM HUMAN, JUST LIKE YOU. Yes, it IS very possible that it is NONE OF MY BUSINESS; however, can it just be my business for this millisecond, while we are dealing with each other. Especially, if I have asked you THE QUESTION. Omission of the truth is a LIE.
If I somehow communicate to you that they want to spend more time with you and get to know you. Or that I appreciate your company. Or that I want to know that you are HAPPY. How hard is it to say, THE ANSWER? Why is that so hard? Being honest is the best way to show someone that even though you don’t really want to get coffee with them, or that maybe the rekindling friendship isn’t where you thought it was going — that you still respect them. You’re not hurting my feelings if you aren’t disrespecting me, in the process. In fact, hurting my feelings is part of that transaction. I can handle it. And even is I can’t, it is the best thing for me. What makes me crazy is the lack of knowing and then the perpetuity of my mind’s race. Sure I can probably take a hint, but as the saying goes, “to assume is to make an ASS out of U and ME.” I don’t want to assume, because my imagination runs wild. Just tell me, straight up — do you want to get a drink OR NOT? I’ll respect you even more, when you respect me enough.
The truth about honesty is it that there aren’t any NEGATIVE consequences in truth, but only light. Everyone moves on, quicker, whole-r, and has the gift of continuing down at path of light and knowing, verses dark. A revelation of what to expect and how to take your next steps, is actually a nicely wrapped GIFT.
So, please just respond to my texts or my messages with a clear answer and exactly how you feel. And if you need time to give me those answer…just tell me you need time to respond… but PLEASE… DON’T IGNORE ME.